Flaunt your flaws. Well, not precisely. But maybe consider not hiding them. What do you consider flaws? What you might think is a flaw, another person might think is an asset. It’s all in the name of perception.
You might think a boisterous, outgoing person has a gift. They might perceive it as a flaw. I’ve always admired straight hair, yet most of my straight-haired friends perceive that differently. I spent days trying to figure out how to hide red circles on my legs that are part of a benign skin condition. I figured I would either use tanning cream or wear only long pants. Then I got to looking around a little. I saw all kinds of legs. Legs with big bruises, legs with scars, legs with red veins, legs with purple veins, legs with big scratches and legs with large tattoos. It got me thinking. What WAS the purpose of putting so much effort into hiding these circles. Because one person asked me what was wrong? I should have just responded with, ” Yep, they’re my circles. See, I can connect them.” Aren’t there more important things in life to think about rather than trying to gloss over perceived flaws?
It struck me while watching the astonishingly talented cast of the Broadway show, Matilda, that these young children are so lucky to have found their gift at an early age. That’s not to say that one day they might just decide they’re ready to move on from performing. Or, decide they just want to be regular kids and do school shows and community theater. But to have pinpointed their talent is so fortunate. It can take people their whole lives before figuring out what their gifts are. And don’t even try thinking you don’t have one, because we all do! If you’re thinking that, then it is simply up to you to make it your personal mission to find your gift. Now it doesn’t have to be acting or singing. You may have a knack for being funny and making people laugh. Or you might be a person that is so patient that when everyone else has given up on something, you’re still hanging in there. Gifts come in many different forms. And they’re not always obvious. Challenge yourself to find your gift. Take classes, try something new. Once you know what your gift is, use it as much as possible. Let that be your gift to the world.
My mother was a gifted teacher. She never stopped educating children in regular classes as well as children with special needs.
Winter isn’t over. But it’s the first sunny day above fifty degrees and it feels great. The snow is melting, the birds are calling and it is the perfect day to open windows and take a walk at last. My cat is sunning himself on the couch, purring very loudly, yet completely at peace. His biggest worry is an occasional dog chasing where both dogs double team him, but that is of no consequence right now. His whiskers twitch rhythmically in time with his loud purrs. He rolls onto his back to warm his belly in the sun. All four paws in the air and he is at peace. It seems so easy. And it should be, but that isn’t always the case. Where is peace in a busy, connected world? Do you have a spot in the sun or a bright spot in your world?
So I thought about a blog post involving being thankful. Not just because it’s Thanksgiving, but because it really isn’t easy to be thankful. It sounds a little cheesy, but sometimes it’s so much easier to complain about life’s bumps in the road rather than to be thankful for the important things. So instead of giving off negative energy, think about all of those little things. Things like: the love of parents, children, family, friends, significant others, pets, a great restaurant, coffee, dessert, fun hobbies, favorite books and TV shows. You get the point. It all comes back to the little things because we all know, they aren’t really little. They are what makes life complete. And that is no little matter. What is your little thing?
Here is just one little thing of mine:
Shade Grown Costa Rican coffee
BEWARE THE RANT: I’m not going to lie. It really bothers me when people break the code. Which code you might wonder? Well, there are many. But the code I have in mind is the one where you don’t trash your own gender, race, religion, etc. You know, the one that should be common sense! I recently saw a post on Facebook by someone I know. She had apparently watched some show and didn’t like the way the female character was behaving and referred to her using a very derogatory word. One I will not repeat, but most people who know me, know that I do not like this word. Of all the adjectives in this universe, why would someone pick this one? I just don’t get it. My feeling is that using any words like that perpetuate stereotypes and perceptions. Mostly the negative ones. Now I know she didn’t like what she saw and reacted in a way she felt was appropriate, but was it really appropriate to put that word up on social media for all the world to see? Sheesh, when in doubt, think twice. What is your rant?
Do you ever check out? Just for a while. Like where your head just goes somewhere else? When I was young I used to love watching Mr. Rogers because when the train went to the “other world,” the never never-land, I got to go right along with it. I was going to a better place. But only for a few moments. When my children were little and needed a nap, I used to tell them they were “going to nappy,” like they were really going somewhere. Well, not really. We all know they just needed to check out for a bit to get to a more rested frame of mind. Even now, when I take a yoga class I honestly feel that I am going somewhere else even though I don’t leave the class. My mind gets to focus, my body gets to focus and then I get to let go of everything. I do feel that I’ve been on a journey when I take a class. I come away feeling refreshed and ready to take on new things. My frame of mind is completely different. It’s all because I’ve been in a better place. What do you do to get yourself in a better place?
I have always found the concept of emotional contrast very intriguing. When I say emotional contrast, I mean in the broad sense. It could be when I am watching a particularly violent TV or movie scene and it is set to classical music. It has also been when my daughter was saying goodbye to all her camp friends that she had spent 3 weeks with for 5 consecutive summers. Tears streaming down their faces while the upbeat, dance song, “Starships,” by Nikki Minaj, was blasting on one of the kid’s radios. Every time I experience this contrast, it is confusing. Is it just me, or is it for you too? Murder paired with classical music, tears paired with dance music. It prompts me to really think about what my emotions are at the time and puts me in the moment. Clever. Watching my daughter and her friends say goodbye to each other was bittersweet. How do you feel when faced with an emotional contrast? Do you use that in life in any way? Do you ever use this as a technique in your everyday writing?
Nowadays, the idea of privacy is evolving. Social media gives us all an interesting peek at life, business and people. Approach a group of folks on their laptops or tablets and you can be immediately thrust into a group chat not only with those people, but with others on their computer screens. Not always optimal if your having a bad hair day or if you’re in your pajamas. Having fun at a social event and someone snaps a picture of you on their iphone and loads it up to Facebook or Instagram. Do you think they’re going to ask your permission? Privacy really isn’t private anymore. It’s a new version of privacy. What effect will this have on relationships? Can it break up friendships? Is there a such thing as having too much information? You decide.
So I took this picture last night at Menopause: The Musical. Hmm, that subject matter can reveal a few things about my friend and me. Did I ask permission to use her picture. Of course. I wouldn’t want to knowingly violate someone’s privacy.
Deb and me
Take Two – Testing
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Serendipity is a blog by Lyn Sirota. Themes and topics will vary. Some thought provoking and some just fun! We were out of commission for a little while due to hacking. And I don’t mean coughing or spitting! It’s great to be back. To follow this blog, click the box in the bottom right corner that says “follow.” Comments welcome.